Heart years

Shout out to all my fellow parents. We got this.

Since we moved to Tennessee last June, Lucas has been sleeping in a big boy bed. One of my favorite things to do in the morning, after my quiet time, is to snuggle with him before preparing breakfast. He offers me his blanket and snuggles in my arms. Sometimes he ask me to scratch his back or he’ll start chatting about his dreams or whatever comes to mind. These moments and other sweet memories get me through the day. Especially on days like yesterday where it has been one of a thousand arguments and conversations with kids.

I feel we have reached a stage in parenthood where some days are hard y’all. It is a constant grind for me to be kind all the time. Reminding him to follow directions, say please and thank you, be respectful, understand friendships, understand life, etc. He is learning so much and what I want is to provide for him an example of compassion, empathy, gratitude, respect, and joy. But some moments are challenging and those moments sometimes become days, weeks, etc. We have realized now there have been stages and phases for him and us.

In a parenting devotional or Bible study I did last year, I think it was one by Paul Tripp, it stated these years are the heart years. I know there will be more days like yesterday. As well as weeks and months and maybe even years. What has helped me keep perspective is reading my Bible to remind myself of the example Jesus provided for loving others. Everyday it is a daily renewal of my mind. Without it I think the days would be even more difficult, almost unbearable. Along with this habit my relationships have been vital in parenting. My relationship with God, Ross, other parents, fellowship with believers. Sharing kid stories and what’s going on in life. Listening to others who have faced trials I never want to face. Being grateful for the hard days when I know they could be heartbreaking days instead. Being able to connect with others and know these truly are the heart years. We are doing our best and God is in control. This gives me hope. For my children’s future and the future of their children.